Ask Dvorahji: Final Guide for the Spiritually Challenged &amp; Confused

Dvorahji Dvorah Adler The key is always relax...

in a tub, taking a run, in a video, meditation, or

a sugar coma WHATEVER! Just relax & watch thoughts

and feelings melt away! And THERE YOU ARE: OPEN

SPACE, ALWAYS BEEN THERE. BEING always been there.

PEACE always been there. Now WATCH all your concerns,

thoughts, feelings, gripes PASS you by as you REMAIN,

open and safe. Take a deep breath, let it go & Retreat

into your NATURE.

Dvorahji Dvorah Adler "A mistake is a mistake,

neither mine nor his...& That gives a pinch, be with

the pinch not the guilt."-Sri Sri**** Can you just move on?

So there's a pinch: Now MOVE ON! Without all this ridiculous

regret, unhappiness & misery over "a happening" that has

come & Gone! If IT could've been different, IT WOULD'VE

BEEN DIFFERENT! NOW Relax & MOVE ON....

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Mahender Mandala

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Barbara Hood

do you really believe that no-one makes mistakes? ....and there should be no remorse?

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Mitsu Goswami

move on yes... but what about the pain associated with the happening.. one needs time to heal from that ♥

Tue at 12:20am · Delete

YES, never intentionally. It's a HAPPENING....
Remorse happens, just don't get stuck on it. Remorse as a pinch is good - when it becomes overwhelming it loses it's purpose. It's all part of the drama, the flow of life Happening...Our job is to move along with the flow of life happening, from one drama to another, safe in this VAST/OPEN/SPACE MOMENT...A little remorse feels good, just don't get attached to it, it's not a permanent feeling...IT COMES & THEN IT GOES - like everything else. MISTAKES HAPPEN. NO BLAME, NO CREDIT...

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Mitsu Goswami

true.. one takes time to get over a happening.. but getting attached is wrong...Thank You ... and your friendship ♥

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MITSU, Who told you, you had to heal from that? If you didn't really do anything, what are you going to heal from? A Mistake happened, who is it that needs to heal? A thought needs to heal, that's all that needs to heal.

And since that thought may come up again and again, it may take a couple of days. Do your asanas, pranayam, meditation, a little kriya and you should be good as new.

All this healing stuff, it's your imagination...you "THINK" you have to heal. Relax and again move along...

Tue at 12:26am · Delete

Getting attached is not wrong. Getting attached happens like everything else. It just causes more thoughts & unhappiness. You can relax even if you get attached...most people love their attachments & actually there's nothing wrong with that...it comes & goes like everything else.

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Barbara Hood

I like what you are saying too...but it just seems that everyone has this move on attitude and we are supressing a lot of our true feelings so that we may be like the other fish in the river being carried along by the currant....but are you really resolving the hidden causes as to why that experience entered your life in the first place.....

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Barbara, you're certainly entitled to your perspective, but honestly, if you're still into "hidden causes" you're into "OLD" concepts. True feelings are just more thoughts that you "THINK" ARE TRUE.

From my perspective, hidden causes is the language of psychobabble, belief in getting rid of 'bad karma" cleaning the chakras, cells, aura and a myriad of healing processes that are available now through the New Age. THEY all assume there is something hidden in you that needs to be looked at and healed. From my perspective IT'S ALL RUBBISH-THOUGHTS THAT COME AND GO about your mind & body. & of course that doesn't mean people don't get healed.

if you ask me, Dvorahji, then LIFE IS A HAPPENING, PERIOD. And to understand that statement, you really have to go beyond thought, and belief systems and recognize that all your problems including all the "hidden causes" are because of your THOUGHTS and those thoughts have the staying power and "depth" of a fly buzzing around your head.

It will buzz for a while & then it will move on, maybe it will come back again, but then it will eventually die. There is no "depth" in a fly and there is no depth in a thought. Your "hidden causes" are a thought, an made up story that you believe. and again THAT'S OK, because IT IS AS IT IS.

When you're ready to give up ALL YOUR STORIES and ALL YOUR HIDDEN CAUSES, you may want to check out this post again... love Dvorah

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Jerry Harvey

life is living through us and making us believe otherwise

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Barbara Hood

I cannot agree with you entirely. I have seen many who take advantage of others with the same attitude you are adopting by saying...get over it. It is easy to talk......

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I'm not "really" saying get over it...I'm saying do what you do and know deeply that life is a happening. Cry, pray, meditate, go get healed. Do WHAT EVER YOU DO...I'm not telling you to do the "positive thinking" nonsense and glide over your feeling and pretend they are not there...I'm only suggesting that you go deeper then words & feelings - to that vast/silent/ relaxed state that is your Nature and relax into this constant WORLD OF THOUGHT & FEELINGS FROM A DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE.

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the key is always relax...in a tub, taking a run, in a movie, in a sugar coma..whatever...just relax and watch the thoughts and feelings melt away! and then there is this SPACE/ OPEN SPACE THAT HAS ALWAYS BEEN THERE. BEING that has always been there, PEACE, that has always been there, and WATCH EVERYTHING ELSE melt away to the infinite space it has come from....

From that space that you wake up with every morning, go into the world and DO YOUR THING and you'll see that all your concerns, thoughts, feelings, gripes are passing you by as you REMAIN, open and safe.

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YaYa Laura Blackfoot

I agree with the Life Happening because it is Happening. I don't talk out loud anymore when I'm pissed off because most people cant bear my truth. I call it my truth because I'm the one hurting, not you or my family. Over the years a lot of my pain has been suppressed because I was taught to not cry and share my feelings, but in the past 5 to 7 years when I did start to share my feelings to some people in my life, I was told that I was stuck, get over it, and that I talk too much, so I went into absolute shut down shut off mode. I have been like this for the past 2 years. Not sharing deep emotions like before, however, reading much of your work has helped me to BE STILL/THINK/ BE WITH IT/ FEEL IT/ MEDITATE ON IT/ and then HANDLE IT. MY way has always been through writing.

The truth to me is.....ITS MINE and NOBODY REALLY WANTS TO SHARE IT WITH ME (problems)....And that's OK because through my pain, I have found CREATIVITY and when I read it over, I see it different and I detach myself from the story and I become the audience or my oun shrink and then everything is as clear as the nose on my face....

So... THANK YOU FOR YOUR WRITINGS OF YOUR TRUTH BECAUSE I CAN MAKE IT MINE....I LOVE YOU!!!

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Suppression of feelings and thoughts, has NEVER BEEN MY WAY...and if you knew me (which most of you really do) I don't hold back much, because to me it's all RIGHT HERE, IN FRONT OF MY FACE ALL THE TIME. Your life is right here ALL THE TIME. It is never hidden from view. And all the thoughts, feeling and emotions come & go ALL THE TIME.

Look at them, review them, heal them, write about them, that's all part of our life, just RECOGNIZE that they are passing through and that SILENT OPEN PEACEFUL SAFE NATURE that you are. That way you can play with them, experience them AND NOT GET STUCK ON THEM as if they we stuck in your cells & the rest of that New Age healing Bull$%%T. NOTHING, and I mean NOTHING is stuck anywhere. NOTHING is deep in your chakras & dna crap. IT'S ALL RIGHT HERE ALL THE TIME, RIGHT NOW, for you to access if IT wants to.

Just be Natural, be who you are, accept your life as it comes up or NOT....but again, when it's all over, and you're done doing your thing, MOVE ALONG! instead to back tracking to get the last bit of nonsense the healer told you to get out. Move along... your free, your healed and you are PURE.

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Awesomely right!!!

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Dvorahji Dvorah Adler That SPACE-in between

your thoughts; that OBSERVING open vast light in

between your worry, depression, joy & happiness;

that BEING that has ALWAYS been with you since

childhood & has never changed-THAT'S YOUR

ENLIGHTENED NATURE! THAT'S YOUR HARBOR OF

REST/PEACE/HAPPINESS. That WITNESS to your life

& everything else you can imagine is ENLIGHTENMENT!

You are needlessly searching for what YOU ALREADY ARE.

Relax.

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Elizabeth Greig

So your enlightened nature = being in the present moment, right?

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You are ALWAYS IN THE PRESENT MOMENT - where else could you be? Your breath is in the present moment, your body/heart beat is in the present moment, only your thoughts vacilate all over the place. You actually are ALWAYS in the present moment whether you "know it" or not. Just like you are Enlightened whether you "know it" or not.

Present moment, Enlightenment, Love, SPACE, GRACE, ALL ARE YOU NATURE in the present moment ALWAYS.

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BTW- all this trying to be in the "now" or trying to live in the present moment is just "mind tripping", another thought making you "think" you are in the present moment.

The present moment is ALWAYS RIGHT HERE, PERIOD. You never have to try being in the present. You are always Here in IT. If you want, stop, take a breath, and in that breath your mental activity usually stops and there it is - THE PRESENT MOMENT. Always there in between every breath, with no beginning and no end. HERE all the Time.

What teachers really refer to when they tell you to "try" and be in the present moment is a cessation of thought - AND trying to stop thinking is like trying to stop the pink Elephant, from trampling through your mind.

NOW/PRESENT are already your reality, you don't ever have to try and BE present, that's when you start mind-tripping again. It's a relaxation into what YOU ALREADY ARE, NOT a trying to be. Get it? Great, now relax with all this stuff and live in the Now/present naturally.

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Nancey Gagos

I'd love to share your shares, but there isn't a button to do that with. I think it a setting you can change. Please do. With my love and warmest greetings, Nancey

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Nancy, I'm not sure what your looking at...I've structured it so you can share my posts & pict Tell me specifically what you can't share...

Mon at 7:00pm · Delete

Ok , that was a little too deep for me, will read it couple of times and let it sink in....

Mon at 8:42pm · Delete

skip it...just read this line...and read it like a sutra before you go to bed and just sink into it ok? Don't try to understand stand it. Just relax in this short sutra...

"That BEING that has ALWAYS been with you since childhood & has never changed-THAT'S YOUR ENLIGHTENED NATURE! "

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Anna Novikov

Exactly!

Mon at 8:55pm · Delete

ya, ok.
It did sink in, all of it.....
yet, i am going to be with those words little longer..
nice... :) real nice....

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Ajay Verma Aol

That is true...

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Dvorahji Dvorah Adler There are so many stories about

"getting enlightened" & they're so devotional, beautiful,

& feel so unattainable, making you feel unworthy. "Someday,

I'll be as pure as the enlightened saints", you think.

Darlings-KNOCK IT OFF! This thinking is so stupid!

PURITY is your Nature. DEVOTION is your Nature.

ENLIGHTENMENT is your Nature. Relax, You are &

have ALWAYS BEEN worthy, regardless of what you think

of yourself.

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Vikram Hazra

Cdnt agree more dvorah. Hope yu r doing well -- long time since I shared some laughs with you.
Luv, hugs n jgd
Vikram

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Wendy Sanchez

am so glad you are sending messages again. I was missing your wise words. It was time for the reminders. Besos!

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Orly Zirinsky

Dvoraji, want to hop over for a visit to the Holy Land?

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Meena Waghray

I would love to meet you..when are you coming to Bangalore?

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Amazing Dvorah !! Amazing !! that are amazing and yet such simple words !!! WOW !!! every one needs to read these words !!

I am hooked onto your FB status and comments now....pearls....nopes....absolute diamonds of wisdom.....

Cheers to you. Your words are amazing.

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Now...i am totally inspired to read your book "shut up"....and i am not even a book person...if there is such a thing as a book person !! :)

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Darling Tanbir, I'm not a book person either - I like videos!

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Darling Orly...send me a ticket, find me a place to stay...Invite some people for an informal conversation & fun...and I'll come...

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WOW!!!!! Whooppppa!!!

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You know facebook is great and makes for a very comfortable satsang...but the seeker needs to become undone...and If I was there I'd probably wack you all on the head & make you wonder if you came to the right place!!!

Seekers can get very smug with what they've learned - No body seems to want to really give it all up...they still want "a little control, a little choice". That's why there are so many teachers Offering enlightenment & positive thinking as still "your choice".

I'd like to look at you straight in the face and completely dismiss anything you have to say and make sure you know, VERY CLEARLY - THAT LIFE IS A HAPPENING...and you have NO choice, there is only the appearance of choice. And everything, and I mean EVERYTHING IS A VAST MYSTERY beyond your control. And maybe then you'll just give it up, relax and live your life without all these rationalizations and "what ifs".

It always is exactly as it CAN ONLY BE, PERIOD. NO ifs, buts, maybes or whatevers. Nada. It is as it is.

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Ramakrishnan Devarajan

that is well said!

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Margaret Guillory

You're Amazing, Dvorahji! I love how you continue to point to the Truth, cutting off any of our statements that say 'but...', so we Stop and see/recognize/notice/observe What Is/Who or What we really are, rather than having all our attention on what's fleeting. When I remember and come back, the 'burdensome' thoughts drop since there's no substance to them, and then appropriate action follows. Amazing! And yet so simple, too simple, how can it be so simple, can't be...and but IT IS! Love You!

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IT is just that easy! How do make seekers see "easy"? Now that is very difficult and such a hassle!.....

Yes IT IS EASY, EASY, EASY....

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Dvorahji Dvorah Adler When you relax fully & recognize

your Nature (which has always been HERE) - the search

stops! Your life continues, happenings occur & you remain

exactly as YOU ARE. Many "think" there will be riches or

eternal health or bliss forever - But those are thoughts of the

seeker. Those things could happen whether you're free or not.

Be Happy Here, right now, Rest. Open your eyes & smile.

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Roopa Kakar

Beautifully said, Dear.

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Ivette Laracuente

Thank you!

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Juan Rodriguez Toro

SWEETHEART YOU'RE A LOVELY LADY AND VERY FUN TOO...GOD BLESS YOU ALWAYS

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Dhiraj Patil

wooow

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Moses Kravitz

FEED the PEOPLE!!

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Vijay Deshpande

Oh Dvorahji!!!! you are so lovable. Coming up with such beautiful insights !!!

November 27 at 2:13am · Delete

Perfect !!! perfect words and thoughts !!

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Jerry Harvey

that's exactly right

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Dvorahji Dvorah Adler People read spiritual knowledge

like everything else-on the go-inbetween Iphones &

Blackberries. When something soothes your heart & mind,

STOP, REST in that knowledge if only for one deep breathe.

Sit in the moment. Don't say yes I agree or not. Just take

some SHADE for a moment from all your mental/physical

activity. Give knowledge, this SUTRA time to SPACE OUT

in you. ONE MOMENT can change ur perception FOREVER

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Prakirtee Roodurmun

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Alka Tej Singh

mmmmmmmm.................

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Nitin Pal Singh

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.........
I took a deep breath after reading it and before writing this :)

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Aman Nain

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Moses Kravitz

i live in the SHADE...
it's very quiet here...
i listen to the sound of my BREATH...
it lingers like a lover
in the afterglow...
do you remember when we met...?

November 24 at 4:24am · Delete

YO!!! U Rock On Sister!!!!

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Liz Hunyadi

Yeah, the weird thing is that spirituality can end up being yet one more form of entertainment in a stimulation-packed world. You pick up some blurbs on the fly and then go. I say better than nothing, ultimately some of it does sink in. ;O)

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Dvorahji Dvorah Adler If you're tired of looking for love in every dating website, ashram and country - maybe then - out of sheer desperation and good luck - you'll SHUT UP (quietly look inside) and come HOME to your Nature. I know you want a soulmate...But first FIND YOUR SOUL and then you can relax with your mate.

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Tammy Hanley

Amen to that ! Took me a wile to figure that one out ! ♥

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YOOOO!!!! Yes Dvorah Ji!! m doing goooodddd !!!!! U Rock ON MY Dear!!!!!!!! JAI GURUDEV!

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Vini Vijayan

cool.....

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Liz Hunyadi

I was just thinking about this tonight, Dvorahji. I think you finally have to get so incredibly sick of obsessing over 'true love' that you have to really not care anymore. And then the universe's trick will be to bring him (or her.) That's very often what happens but you have to even let go of that. And just shut up. ;O)

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It's funny what the mind does, isn't It? First you try & make love happen by making lists, praying, hoping, using the law of attraction and if that doesn't happen, then you "don't care anymore" in hopes that will do the trick, because you've "let go". And then sometimes you find someone "out of the blue" when you weren't looking and again, you think that's the reason you found your "true love" for a month, a year, and rarely a lifetime.

All these concepts on how to get things to happen for you. Honestly it's so heartbreaking to keep watching seekers trying to manipulate their life to get what they want and then once they get it, they want something else and on and on and on...It's one mind trip after another with an occasional hit for awhile.

I know it appears as if there is a rhyme or reason for what happens to you...BUT FORGET IT! IT HAPPENS WHEN IT HAPPENS, AND most of the time it doesn't happen the way you want it to, and if it does, there always a little twist. But the good news is you still keep hoping that this time it's going to be a "forever" happiness.

How can there be a forever when everything is ALWAYS CHANGING? How is it possible? You find your true love and in one year they're completely different? And in five years you're both completely different people. Sometimes you hang in there and sometimes you don't.

Don't worry so much about all this stuff...Live your life and have as much fun as you can in & out of relationships...

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Patricia Pashia D'souza

De-light-full

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Sonali Rao

i just told this to my friend today!!!wow...i came home and i saw this...aho guru!!

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Vijay Deshpande

I tried to find my soul, Dvorahji! In the bargain, I lost the desire for a mate!

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MAN!!!!!! Dvorah ji!!!! YOU JUST SPOKE IT ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL !!!!!!!!!!!! I LOVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVE YOUUUUUUUUU MY DEAREST MOTHER/SISTER/BEST FRIEND!!!! WOOOOOWWWWWWW! I feel great!!! :)

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Jeff Gregory

Dvorahji,

Excellent. Just wish I had read this before spending two weeks with what I honestly believed was true love. Hey, it was just two weeks. Could have been two years...

Jeff

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Think about Jeff, wasn't it wonderful while it was wonderful? Wasn't it delirious & loving to feel that you finally found your "soulmate" for life? So for awhile it was bliss. The problem always comes in that people want the bliss, but don't want the suffering. Unfortunately, you can't have one without the other.

In life when you have a lot of happiness/bliss it comes with an automatic "opposite" ticket. If you go up, you come down...That's the REAL LAW OF ATTRACTION. UP IS ATTRACTED TO DOWN.

Jeff you had a great time, a great adventure and you're going to have many more...enjoy them all with their ups & downs, otherwise life get so boring. all this hoping, praying, wanting, getting, losing, crying...what a drama, and feeling it all is really very exciting, isn't it? Much Better then feeling nothing?

The trick is always to move on and give all those "associations/feelings" a chance to move out of your system & psyche. People tend to think they have deep vasana - but really that's ridiculous. THERE IS NO DEEP ANYTHING!!!! IT'S ALL RIGHT HERE. IT'S JUST THAT SIMPLE...let them come & then let them goooooooo. Just be a little patient. A little breathing, a little kriya, a little meditation and you're as clear as new.

November 24 at 7:11pm · Delete

Dvorahji Dvorah Adler Spirituality has become so complicated,

so conceptually stuck & intellectually superior. Seekers are

looking for God, Love & Grace in the strangest places.

The Shut Up Book is actually a Guide for Spiritual Dyslexics.

A Spiritual "Special ED book" for all those Who've given UP

on ALL this Enlightenment Nonsense & FINALLY want to be

FREE!

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Gayle Bertsch

LOVE your special ED book!

November 20 at 4:41pm · Delete

"Spiritual Special ED" was a brilliant quote by
Lola Falanananda Maharaj aka Jason Lambert...thank you Lola....

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Jason Lambert

Above the sound of roaring applause:
"Thank you all so much! Thank you! Please, please! Thank you! I'd like to thank the academy and all the little people who made this day possible. You love me. . .You really love me!"

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Patricia Pashia D'souza

De-light-full

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Benedetto Durante

should i read the book or shut up ??

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Prof. Sudershan Batra

Saturday, November 21,2009/ 10.15 pm IST

It sure is a novel way of looking at ohter's spirituality and ur own. Professor Sudershan Batra

November 21 at 7:43am · Delete

Well Benedetto, you should probably "shut Up" while you're reading the book!

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