Ask Dvorahji: Why are people born disabled? Why all the suffering?

Dvorahji: Ohhhhhhhhh Can you please tell me your opinion about why people born disable? It hurts me to see my daughter in this position? I'm confused about it?****

Darling Girl: Why do some rose buds open and some don't? Why do some bird eggs hatch and some don't? Why does one person fall out of a plane and live and another falls in the bathtub and dies?

These are the question of WHY, WHY , WHY me, why her? Why did this happen? The reasons can be very simple or infinitely complicated. WHO KNOWS WHY, THINGS HAPPEN, life is a myriad of life forms, situations, circumstances. TO wonder why is to wonder why one particular hair on your head bends to the left.

I could give you a standard "karma" answer but so what? What good does it do you or your daughter? Or I could say, next life time she will be an angel with all the glorious of heaven and earth and she is just paying off some karma, and so are you by showing great compassion and yada yada yada. But what good would an answer like that bring - but a million more questions & hopes?

There is a point Wendy when ALL THESE QUESTIONS WILL STOP. AND YOU WILL BE AT PEACE with whatever HAS happened, DOES happen, and WILL happen. Your thoughts are driving you nuts, not life...life continues as your thoughts change...Relax, just relax and continue and be happy, at peace with your life exactly as it continues to show up. Just relax. You are loved beyond measure and taken care of always. PEACE, LOVE ARE YOUR NATURE...but this world, your life circumstances will come & go and continue to change, sometimes sunny sometimes cloudy, like the weather.

I love you, relax....sending love and blessing to you and your daughter, your friend,

PS. In the end in all turns into LOVE.Dvorahji

My daughter & I send lots of love to you & your daughter....

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Ebru Ozler Burkut, Carla Riechman, Neeta Ghimire and 6 others like this.

Wendy Rodriguez-Sprader 

Thank you........gracias !!!! From my daughter Paola and I, eternal hugs and gratitude !!! Paola teached me something, love ! and you confirmed today !

December 28, 2009 at 1:21pm · 

Dawn R Oughton 

Who the hells knows what my karma is I could have been a reincarnated Beetoven who just happened to hit the wrong note and was going deaf when he fell over dead and now I, when I was 7 born hard of hearing and took up playing piano for the first time like a pro with lota wrong notes lol.
I think today I am looking for a creative outlook to make the right note whatever that is be it visual, noise, or maybe food or relationships or just plain life.
I don't think about my disability, the way I see it, it takes two to make it seem like a "disability"...the one w/disability and the other without a disability.

December 28, 2009 at 3:55pm · 

Dvorahji Dvorah Adler 

You know Dawn, just being alive and getting through it is a major disability!!!! I would say LIFE IS A DISABILITY!

December 28, 2009 at 9:31pm · 

Dawn R Oughton 

Yeah I see your point especially in relations to what you said in your status that we are who we are minus life and death. It's mighty tricky to try to think myself without a body tho I prefer to think of it as love then a disability. Is this what you mean going for the top of the ice cream in your note of comparison with Byron Katie...if I think of disability as concept coming from the two and you taking it and making it all inclusive that we all have a disability for just living. Neat way of thinking...then what is the point of making a misery out of being disable when you we are all in the same boat. um...

December 28, 2009 at 11:16pm · 

Dvorahji Dvorah Adler 

Our disability, is that we don't realize that LOVE is our Nature, that we're safe, at home, and everything is exactly as it can ONLY BE...

We all come in with this eventual twist of DISABILITY OF SEPARATENESS and that disability is EVERYTHING. It's the underlying problem of all our dissatisfaction and misery in life.

This is the Disability we need to eradicate first and then there won't be any disabilities AT ALL...But hey...it's a lila, IT IS WHAT IT IS...that's why we're try and be has happy as we can until it's time and this MAJOR DISABILITY IS HEALED!

December 28, 2009 at 11:30pm · 

Dawn R Oughton 

Interesting thanks even if it is a lila. :) Have you seen Avatar you have to see it in 3-D. It's good.

December 28, 2009 at 11:42pm · 

Cathy Prem 

How is life a disability? Because we all have to die?

December 29, 2009 at 3:45am · 

Wendy Rodriguez-Sprader 

As a mother with a daughter that born ''disable'', well thats the label that society use to describe the differences, i always wanted to know as the mother i am, why she born quadrapligic, and second how can i help her. The process of being her mother teached me love and introduced me to the precious realm of oneness.....my daughter and i, we arejust one, we compleated each other, complement each other...of course sometimes is hard, i have to lift her, and believe me she is a big girl, i have no lift system at home, second, no father around, and no nurse or careguiver, we do not qualify for the services.....i have to take care of her all this years (almost 16) with no help from nobody......karma ? i dont waste my time thinking about karma, my time is to precious to go back to history and try to find out what the hell wrong i did, or she did......or good. I love and enjoy the prescence of my girl, i just wanted to know the why's.......and i guess there is a bunch of why's and may be they are none...who knows........after talking to my precious Dvorahji, i put all the questions on the side.......if they will be answer some time in the cycle of life, i have no idea, all i care for now is to keep doing what im doing, sure there is more to learn, to share, to love, to be mad, and go back and force to hell......but im sure of something........that inside me and my daughter there is just pure love for each other and the rest of our precious brothers and sister in this planet and other universes.....for now in this moment of time.....she is using my legs.......and i love to share them with her !

December 29, 2009 at 8:28am · 

Dvorahji Dvorah Adler 

@Cathy. NO, (not because you have to die) -.because we have to live! withOUT the awareness of that simple simple simiple state of awareness..........Because we don't recognize that LOVE IS OUR NATURE, so we suffer....needlessly....unbearable...UNTIL we're home to ourselves....

December 29, 2009 at 9:53am · 

Dvorahji Dvorah Adler 

@Wendy...Baby for sure YOU ARE LOVE and a delicious mama tooooooo!......and never, ever, ever, ever, ever, was any of this your fault.......IT JUST WAS.... for the infintie amount of reasons that out of trillions of leaves, one gets discolored and others around it don't......IT'S A HAPPENING....and I'm so happy...you are happy....

December 29, 2009 at 10:07am · 

Dawn R Oughton 

Wow Wendy I am humbled just reading your story. I wouldn't mess with all this why business but then I am not in your shoes. And I do recognize the bonding between mothers and daughter...I missed my mother she had a lot of mental illness but she was also my mom. Nobody could cut thru that. But I do not have kids of my own. But I question about the thought that you don't qualify for service? You can't be doing this all alone. Community do not support? I remember at times when my mother was sick and the community mental health wasn't doing their job or was doing it poorly I would get so angry...it's explosve if I don't have an outlet to vent my thoughts so even if you persist with all these why thoughts I would just let it all out let it come even if it's just redundent. But it's refreshing to hear D 's saying it is a happening. It give fresh air for sure.

December 29, 2009 at 11:02am · 

Wendy Rodriguez-Sprader 

Dear Dvorahji.......im glad that we share this space we call now....
Dawn....thank you for your kindness......i have a planet earth mother....she never ever care for me, her mother never cared for her also....she was abandoned by her mother on a bridge with her other siblings when she was 5 years old.....so, when it was her turn to be a mother, she didnt care a dime of me and my brother. This is a good question........do we have to follow the ''traditions'' or our earth parents ? no. So, i trully believe we born enlighthed, and we will be enlighthed for the eternity.....Some people know that, some people don't. When i was a little girl, i use to put bandages to the animals from the farm i was raised, i teached myself about compassion, and kindness.....the bandages was a way to show them my unconditional love. Being surrounded by nature, more than humans i learned the language of nature......when my daughter born, and my other one ''die'', i was ready for a caring experience....
Yes, sometimes, i am mad, but not at the circunstances. This is funny, but do you ever watch the movie Avatar ? i compare myself with the tall and beautiful ''alien''....i am light, love, kindness, but i am also a warrior.....(yin yang ?)
Im sure i will get some help to lift my girl, and if not, i promised that while i am in this body i will be a ''amazon'' a ''viking''.....a ''warrior''......because i need to care for my girl.....if i tell you that i can lift 600 pound, will you believe me ? i trained myself since a little girl for this experience, you have to see, my husband he is 7 feet tall, his reaction......when he saw me lifting the 600 pounds rock....
What im trying to tell you is that besides my internal ''why's, and that sometimes i show the midle finger while im driving, i do everithing with love, also when i pull that middle finger, i think it is a fairy wand, sending some love to the asshole that call me the b word, lol.......there is not mistakes, im sure of that, and life is a big tv screen, he have in our hands the remote, and we can change the channel every time we want, lol.......for now, im still alien mode....